Mom {Play} Date

On Monday night, Iowa City Moms Blog hosted their second Moms Night Out event. There was good food, drinks, sparkly jewelry and loads of moms looking to connect with other moms.


Mom DateI’m sure you met some lovely moms at the event. Maybe even one or two who share your distaste for the Kardashians and love of cheese balls, and you may want to take this relationship a little further and plan a mommy playdate.


Let’s be honest, first and foremost the playdate is mostly for you to hang out with said super mom, and hopefully have your little ones be entertained as you debate the Fifty Shades of Gray casting intricacies. And that’s ok, because a happy mommy makes a happy kiddo.


So…how do you plan a playdate?


Asking a fellow mom on a “date” can be intimidating at first. I don’t know about you, but I’ve been married for eleven years and haven’t dated in thirteen so…even mommy dating can be scary at first.


However, it is creepily similar to real dating.


Step 1 – Exchange digits or Social Media info

This is probably the most awkward part. Asking for a phone number can be weird and who calls anyone nowadays. Instead, I just ask if they are on Facebook and then exchange info that way. Easy Peasy…


Step 2 – Plan a date

When I made my first mom date, the hardest part was finding the courage to take the next step and actually call for a date. Thanks to social media {see above} it’s a little bit easier. Until…you send an offer out and all you hear is crickets…nothing…nada. This is where mom dating and dating in general are eerily similar. You start to question yourself. “Maybe she wasn’t that interested” or  “Maybe she’s not on FB that often” at this point resist the urge to stalk you supermom {aka new bestie} because that’s a little creepy. Instead, be understanding. As a mom yourself you know how crazy busy life can been, so just give it time. If you don’t hear anything within a week, then you can chalk it up to “not compatible” and move on. There are plenty of moms in the sea.


If she responds, try not to scare her with your over zealous “woot, woot”, but you can dance around your living room while no one is looking.


When it comes to planning a playdate you have options. Your house {which I would offer, since you suggested the date}, her house {if she volunteers} or a kid-friendly place where you can talk and the kids can run around like maniacs {then you won’t have to clean the house}.


Step 3 – The Date

Try not be nervous; remember you’ve met her already. You obviously have things in common otherwise she wouldn’t have made the date. So, just be yourself.


Mom dating isn’t something to fear. In fact, I’ve met MANY friends by taking the first step and asking for a date. It not only helps you {and her} connect with other like minded moms, but your kiddos will enjoy it too.


And that’s worth the anxiety, sweaty palms and 20 outfit changes.


If you are wanting to make a mom date with any of the moms you met at our Moms Night Out, don’t be shy. Reach out and create a connection, you will be glad you did.

Brook {without the "e"} is a spunky faux redhead and former UI grad who has decided to call Iowa City her home for over 10 years. She met her husband on the internet, and they spend their days playing superheroes with their two boys, Edison (2007) and Grant (2010). She juggles mom life with a full-time job as a marketing consultant, competing in triathlons and writing her heart out on her personal blog She believes life is a journey, not a destination.


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