I would have loved a manual on how to raise my kids when I took them home from the hospital. Literally, a step-by-step guide on each of them. Since this magical manual does not exist, I had to find other ways to find answers to my parenting questions. In this search I have read a ton of parenting books. A lot of them were ok, some were terrible, and a few were eye-opening and really hit the nail on the head with how I want to raise my kids.
I share my favorites with you today hoping they may help you on this crazy road we call parenthood. Keep up the good work, mamas!
A straightforward, practical, and easy-to-use guide with techniques on managing the difficult aspects of parenthood. One lesson that stood out for me was to change my reaction. I shouldn’t take my child’s poor behavior personally; tantrums are developmentally appropriate and I need to manage my response to them. “Respond calmly like a CEO” and speak in the first person. I subscribe to the author’s email and Facebook updates for free resources on parenting, but I love that I have a copy of this book on hand.
Seriously. I felt like I was speaking a different language with my toddler most days. This book has simple and effective tools to use when speaking to your child on handling emotions, getting cooperation, resolving conflict, problem solving, and more! I loved the reminder to make things silly for your kids when needing cooperation. (“Please, let me get on your foot, says Mr. Sock!”) Silly voices and making a game works wonders at getting out the door for a stalling toddler.
Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How To Stop The Fighting & Raise Friends For Life- Dr. Laura Markham
Man, I wish my parents would have had this book. While my kids are small and I haven’t faced a lot of the issues discussed in this book, it was a great read to prepare myself in how my role as a parent will play in creating a lasting sibling bond. I will definitely be coming back to this book again and again.
It’s OK Not to Share…And Other Renegade Rules for Raising Competent and Compassionate Kids- Heather Schumaker
Again, there are so many great parenting tips here, but I have found in practice these things are working with my two kids. You don’t need to share your toy; you can have it as long as you want, and the next person gets it when you are done. Play wise, how often do you find yourself telling your kid to not do something? Why? Kids need to explore and do things outside of the box. You learn here that any type of play is ok as long as it is not hurting people or property.
We all worry about the world we are sending our kids into. I love how this book makes you look at the big picture. What kind of people do I want my kids to become and how do I parent them to be the best versions of themselves? Being happy ourselves will help raise happy kids, so start there. Another good reminder–parent your child how they need to be parented and look at the most important things we can teach them: to slow down and play, to be kind and to have empathy, how to resolve conflict and to cope with stress, and to follow their passions.
What parenting books made a difference in your life as a mama?