Cinderella. Snow White. Sleeping Beauty. If you’re like me, these were some of your favorite movies growing up. With two girls at home who are IN LOVE with princesses, they are still watched fairly frequently in our house.
What do they all have in common?
In fact, most of the movies I loved to watch as a little girl, and most of the movies my little girls love to watch today, are centered on the idea of a beautiful princess meeting a handsome prince and living happily ever after. This was what we all dreamed our lives would be like, wasn’t it?
Fast forward x number of years later, and you meet the man of your dreams. He has all the qualities you’re looking for, and you fall head over heels. You get butterflies every time you see him, spend hours on the phone racking up the phone bill (this was likely before unlimited talk, text, and data), and can’t wait to spend your life with him. He proposes. You get married. You’re thrilled at the thought of Happily Ever After!
Somewhere along the line, the butterflies slowly fade into the background. You get busy with life. You realize he always throws his clothes on the floor. Next to the laundry hamper. Seriously? He realizes you don’t actually shave your legs every day. Or every week, for that matter. Morning breath isn’t always minty fresh. One, two, three (or more!) kids come along, and you’re sleep deprived and grouchy. Maybe petty little arguments start to become routine. Maybe some days you wonder, what happened to Prince Charming? What happened to Happily Ever After
The fact is that in those movies we all love, they only show the prince and princess riding off into the sunset. They don’t show what happens once they move into the castle.
We all have hard days, no matter how great your relationship is. It’s easy to long for those days when you were dating or for your relationship to mirror that of your favorite movie. But I’m betting that the Prince Charming you have now is even better than the one you dreamed of as a girl, and even better than the one you were head-over-heels for when you were dating.
Because Prince Charming is the one who holds your hair while you’re throwing up for the 5th time that day during your first trimester. He’s the one who holds your hand during your ultrasound and helps you breathe through your contractions during labor. He’s the one who cuts your baby’s umbilical cord and drives your precious cargo home from the hospital. He changes diapers, tucks your children in at night, and soothes them when they cry.
Prince Charming goes to work or school every day in order to provide for your family, to pay the bills and put food on the table. He supports your dream of working or staying at home. Maybe he even stays home with the kids so that you can do what you love. Or maybe he works nights while you work days, just so you can make ends meet. He knows what to say to make you laugh and holds you when you cry. He holds your hand through heartbreak and jubilation, joy and pain. He calls and offers to bring home a pizza when he knows you’ve had a long day. The list could go on and on…
Today I challenge you to look at your man in a whole new light. You just might realize that he’s even better than the man of your dreams. He’s your own Prince Charming.