Help! I’m Stuck in a Rut!

The new year has come and everyone is rocking their new beginnings, but personally I am struggling. The new year is suppose to be happy, but that is not how I’m feeling. It could not have come at a worse time, because I feel like I have this big sign draped around my neck that says FAILURE! Lately I’m feeling overwhelmed, failing in all directions, and not able to catch a break. Why can’t I be rocking the new year like everyone else?

I know it will pass, but how do I cope with it while I work through it? Here are three things I’m trying.


First, I make myself get in my regular exercise session. I’m not focused on calories burned or gains made. I remind myself it’s more about getting my body moving.


Second, I try to regularly document things I’m grateful for throughout the day. I say try, because if I’m being honest, life is hectic and it’s not always done. I do notice that when I’m seeking gratitude, it does bring a smile no matter how I’m feeling.


Third, I try to slow down, breathe, and exercise self-care. Whether it’s meditating, reading a book, or watching a show, I realize this is something I’m not doing for myself. It helps break up life demands and breathe.

What do you do to cope when you’re feeling in a rut?


Angelica was raised in West Liberty just a hop, skip, and a jump away from the Iowa City. After getting married to her high school sweetheart and living in the D.C. metro area, they decided it was not where they wanted to raise a family, and moved back to Iowa in 2012. They welcomed their daughter nine months after moving back. Then in 2018 added a yellow lab to their family. Angelica enjoys running, reading, and binge watching shows with her husband. She loves Disney, Reese's, and being a mom.


  1. Thanks for the honest article and not ending it with some great and uplifting revelation about how you are actually doing great but just didn’t realize it. I feel this way right now with my second baby… why am I not rocking it like everyone else? Why is this harder for me?

    What helps me in a rut is spending some quality time with my planner, getting plans made even into the summer so I have things to look forward to but also so I don’t feel like life is moving too fast without my involvement (like, oh.. that happened already? I was going to do that…). Making long-term as well as weekly and daily schedules kind of helps tidy up my brain and make me feel more capable of doing more than survival. Even though frequently survival is all that happens anyway it feels more like a choice then. 🤷‍♀️

    • Becca thank you for your comment I am going to try and put it into practice! I did not think about writing out plans. I think that is where I’m struggling. I don’t write things down and then I don’t follow through.


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